women like this are a disgrace. They should never have married under such circumstances. When you marry someone, you share thier life - including their job. If you do not want, don't like, or can't handle the life of a military man, don't marry him. The rose-colored glasses serve no purpose in any marriage.
As a long time volunteer for the family readiness program (i even have an award from the state of wisconsin army national guard - where i have never lived), i strongly disagree with this statement. With almost 20 currently active family members in all forms of the military (active, guard, reserve), i know that this is utterly false. There are hundreds of programs in place for family members. If people do not take advantage of them, it is their fault. It is far easier to blame someone else for your piss poor life than take on responsibility for it yourself or deal with the choices you've made.
Every time a service man deploys, family readiness has people in place that call and check-in on the families (on base and off) on a regular basis. Those coordinators/volunteers can only go on what they are told. Even i get calls when my husband deploys (after all this time, i rarely have anything to say to them). I am given a list of "important numbers" to be used before he even deploys. Currently my husband is in africa for 2 weeks. I am looking at a 3 page list of all the numbers for base contacts for any situation that i could think of, contact numbers in africa, and local/national community resources. A 2 week deployment is nothing but a cake walk. I won't even hear from him until he's back in the states.
The family of a military member is in no different boat than any other family. The resources are there, but you have to reach out. In fact, base living has more resources than most folks in anytown, usa. The very nature of military life makes it needed. Every family is given a handbook of base resources when they move in. I don't live on a base but my husband brings home tons of stuff that for me, after almost 17 years of marriage (although my husband has 36 in the military), is redundant. My pet peeve are the mandatory meetings for family that i have to attend and tell me little new.
Life in the military is not for everyone but anyone who chooses to marry into it has to do their end of the work to make it work. That is no different than any marriage. The military is far from perfect and could surely do more but to denigrate all that they do do and have available is a disservice. Just like in "real life", no one is going to hand you stuff on a platter. The resources are there, but you have to make it known you need them. The military makes greater effort to help families and make servies known than any community in the "real life".