I don't get this mentality. Why is it acceptable for a person to beat you but you think it won't trickle down to the more vulnerable members of the house. And when he kills you then he will be some upstanding guy to the kids? Dafuq?
That is why I am not so upset that she lost her children.
I will assume the other children were older than Legend - so why would you bring an innocent baby into an abusive relationship?
Honestly no judgement on her if she wants to be with an abusive man, but she will be judged as a terrible mother if she subjects her children to being abused or watching her be abused.
Mom needs to get counseling and do some inner healing before she enters another relationship or has any more children.
She comes across as the type to think "good enough" is all that is needed to raise children.
Choose Your Partner Carefully
It happens all too often.
A young, single parent needs someone to watch their young child while they go out. It’s just for an hour or two, and they enlist their boyfriend or girlfriend to care for the child — not considering whether that person has ever taken care of a child, or is prepared for the responsibility.
Choose Your Partner Carefully
Something goes wrong — the baby won’t stop crying, or the toddler has an accident. And, reacting out of frustration, that boyfriend or girlfriend hurts the child, or worse, causes a life-threatening injury.
Over a recent seven-year period, the mother’s boyfriend was found to be responsible for one third of all abuse-related child deaths in Lucas County. Any baby or toddler left in the care of a person not accustomed to dealing with a young child is at risk. They may shake a crying baby, or hit a toddler who has had an accident or made a mess out of simple frustration or not knowing how to respond.
That’s why Lucas County Children Services presents the
“Choose Your Partner Carefully” campaign. Our hope is to help young parents think twice before assuming their boyfriends or girlfriends are able to care for their children, and to make the community aware of the potential risk that untrained caregivers pose to every child. If this campaign can keep even one child from being hurt or killed, it will be a success.
Warning Signs
When you choose a partner, you’re not just choosing one for yourself. You’re choosing one for your child.
But sometimes, when you’re in love, you don’t see the signs that could tip you off to a dangerous situation for your child.
The first thing to check when thinking about having your partner care for your child is the way your child reacts to him/her. While it’s normal for young children to be upset when mom leaves, look closely at your child’s reaction when being left with your partner. Does your child cry uncontrollably or shake with fear? Is this behavior consistent each time your child is alone with your partner? Has the child started to show new behaviors like bed-wetting, thumb-sucking, being clingier than normal or crying uncontrollably every time you leave the room?
If you see any of these behaviors, think about the potential safety of your child.
Your Partner’s Behavior
There are other questions you should ask yourself about your partner before leaving him/her alone with your child.
Does your partner:
- Get easily irritated or short-tempered when talking to the child?
- Seem immature or have poor impulse control and need constant attention?
- Deliver harsh punishments for minor rule infractions?
- Show anger or impatience when your child cries or throws a tantrum?
- Call your child names or put down your child?
- Think it is funny to scare your child?
- Stop you from bringing your child to his family’s events?
- Make all the decisions for you and your child?
- Say that you are a bad parent and not strict enough?
- Hurt your child and blame you?
- Handle weapons or illegal substances around your child?
- Call your child a nuisance?
If you have answered “yes” to even one of these questions, your child could be at risk.
Do the right thing. Choose your child over your partner.
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.. he will prob be charge with child abuse causing death but if he had done that to an adult he would be charged with murder not adult abuse causing death..... what abuser doesn't know that kicking an adult in the head will cause very serious injuries and prob. death but kicking a baby in the head you didn't mean to kill them ?? do they think and adult is so much more fragile than a baby????? babies lives don't matter?? what is their reasoning??
