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We could file for child support, but he's going to be 18 before long. He needs to get caught up on school before he gets any sort of job. The school said they would help us out, but they didn't and now he has zeros in everything. Looks like he will have to start this school year over. Worst case scenario, he gets his GED instead instead of a diploma. We're definitely not spoiling him.
 
We could file for child support,

If you have a good judge, you shouldn't have to do anything on your end. The judge should write that into the court orders when the state grants guardian/conservatorship, unless they axe parental rights. If a parent still has parental rights, they should HAVE to be responsible for child support.

Youll never see a penny, but it is a fun thing to have hanging over some scumbag. Can bite em in the ass if they try to get a drivers license or certification thru state or anything of that nature. Plus, if this china virus shit continues and there is yet another stimulus check sent out, guess who gets that if a deadbeat parent owes back child support? So it can still be to your/the kids benefit.
 
@Satanica and @Kiss_My_Axe,
Don't worry about refunding mine! Use it to get him some clothes or something.
This. I dont want any refund. Spend it on his needs.
Even if its something fun.
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We could file for child support, but he's going to be 18 before long. He needs to get caught up on school before he gets any sort of job. The school said they would help us out, but they didn't and now he has zeros in everything. Looks like he will have to start this school year over. Worst case scenario, he gets his GED instead instead of a diploma. We're definitely not spoiling him.
There should be a monetary compensation from the county. Also, i believe he would be entitled to the special needs higher amount. Based on what he has gone thru he will need counseling etc.
Also, just because he turns 18 doesnt mean hes ready to he on his own. The monetary compensation may continue until hes 21 and in some cases 24
 
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Okay, everyone just say if they want their contribution back or if we can use for his other needs. We would have to put the electronics on credit and I would rather wait until later in the year to run those up.

Anyone who does want their contribution returned, just let us know. Thank you so much for your caring and your generosity.
 
There should be a monetary compensation from the county.

Whew not my experience in Texas. The State says, "fuck you if you're not the bio parent" up until CPS makes the decision not to seek reuinification and then suddenly shit can't happen fast enough, but the State most def does not show any appreciation for being able to get the case off its plate. ZERO assistance or compensation is provided once they make that call.
 
The caseworker talked to me yesterday and the final step, the home inspection, is tomorrow. She spoke with all our references and said it appears everyone wants this to happen, so she intends to do so.

She said she would ask the asshole's dad about the dog and the boy's possessions, but she can't go to the jail to talk to the asshole himself due to Corona cases there. If he has the stuff and agrees to give it to her, that's great. If the dog is there we will try to find him a home. The caseworker's own dog is about to pass away, so, who knows. Also, the next door neighbors whose dog had to be put down at the training center might be interested and then Ethaniel could still see him whenever he wanted to. Max is a handful, but he is a very nice dog. He's only a handful, because the asshole never got him neutered.

We can't wait for the home inspection tomorrow, because that's the final step. The caseworker has bought him some travel bags so he won't be leaving with his stuff in trash bags which is so common with children in the foster system. Not sure how long it will take for her to get everything filed, but hopefully he will be back home in the next two weeks.
 
CPS is working on the adoption papers. We’ve replaced his Xbox and his iPhone so his father will never have access just in case he ever gets out. He’s still in jail on no bond. He has a bunch of clothes and shoes now. We’ve had a ball going swimming in my neighbors pool, going to a pool party, a trip to Hawaiian Falls water park, we went out on my friends boat and went tubing Saturday and we’ve gone out to eat several times and stopped to get snow cones from the stand up the road. He is very happy! Thank you all for your advice and help! The story isn’t over yet, but he’s home now and it’s been awesome! Can’t wait for him to be our child on paper like he is in our hearts! Thank y’all so much!
Much Love,
Caitlin
 
I'm so happy for you all @Satanica, It's so wonderful it's all worked out for them.

We are in sorta the same situation with my sweet baby girl, she's almost 5, went into foster care when she was about 8mo, she was then placed with extended family, my son and daughter in law, when she was about 16mo.

I met her for the first time on my birthday 2017. Where we differ is that her mother isn't a druggie, just married to a man who is a pos, they were living in a car at the time with 3 older kids too. She has been able to get a job and keep it for over a year, he has not advanced at all and he is very abusive and controlling. She wants a divorce but so far hasn't got too far in that. There was hearing that got postponed when all this quarantining started and I haven't heard anything since then.

My daughter in law is her cousin so we all have been basically pleading with her to let the baby girl stay with us until she gets rid of him because we are afraid he's going to run with her but so far that hasn't happened. I've not seen her in 2 months and I'm missing little miss smarty pants so bad. Damn this corona virus!

I'm so glad you got him back. Have fun fun and more fun, I think he's probably needing some fun after all he's been thru.
 
They have not stopped having fun since he got back! He's very happy and so are we.
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The boy called his grandfather (bad dad's father) about his missing things, and got a shitty reply. Grandpa said it was nice he only called about his stuff and said he didn't have any of it. Way to go, grandpa! Hell, he's probably a deviant, too! Probably taught his son everything he knows about it.

So, according to that reaction he doesn't believe his own grandkids and has sided with his abuser son. :mad:
 
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