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"Irrelevant?" 'Unless you've been in domestic violence?' LOL, darlin' sit back and relax.When a gun is at your
That was the only incident of Michael Draper doing harm to my niece. When he did this to my sister her head was bashed in then had a gun at her..she was trying to protect my niece... This whole blog is irrelevant since nobody was there but my sister when this incident occurred.
No gun at my head *yet*, it was a broken beer bottle @my throat, and my full-sized, body print in the sheet rock in the living room wall. And, at 18 y.o., when the words, "Shut that fuckin' kid up!", came outta baby daddy's mouth, it snapped me the hell out of being O.K. w/getting my ass beat. The SECOND it occurred to me that the piece of shit COULD POSSIBLY hurt my baby daughter, I left with the clothes on our backs.
And, wouldn't you know it, he was so pissed I'd taken her, he'd not only destroyed every picture of her in the house, along with the furniture, TV, etc., as I later found out, he showed up @ the friend's house I'd gone to, put a 12ga. SHOTGUN in my face, and threatened to kill me if I "didn't give her back." I screamed in his gd face, "Do it, motherf**ker! Do it! Pull the gd trigger because you're not getting anywhere NEAR her EVER again!"
I stood my ground, and let him scream and threaten me and point that sonofabitchin' shotgun in my face just DARING him to try and touch my kid, because I knew my friend and his parent's would NEVER let him have her, and would raise her FOR me if I was gone (he & I are still close), 'cuz ya see, I didn't have any brothers or sisters or sane friggin' family members to HELP me out, so excuse me when I agree with someone here who said they'd give their LIVES to protect their child ("BAM! There it is. Beautifully spoken."), because I *DID* LIVE the shit. And, in the 3+ decades it's been since the day the cops showed up & put that mf'er in jail, we got divorced shortly thereafter, he kept his money & I kept my daughter, I don't have a single regret. Since that day, NO MAN has ever gotten the chance to terrorize me again, let alone cast a questionable eye on my kids.
So yeah, some of us DO get it, "with a gun to our heads". We just smelled the stench of child abuse coming and made different choices before it happened. If I had a worst enemy , I wouldn't wish what your family's gone through on them. I SURE in the hell don't know why things happen the way they do, but what I do know, is that it was my maternal instinct that broke the cycle of domestic abuse before that SOB got a chance to lay a finger on my kid. THIS was my life, these were *my* experiences, they do *not* have to be yours, or anyone else's.
I'm with you in wishing there would've been some way for someone to be there for her to intervene, but as anyone who knows anything about gang bangers knows (and I do, from the jail/prison side), once you're with them, you isolate yourself, unless you choose to think with your head instead of reacting with your emotions.
The caps in this post are not from raising my voice, only to add emphasis. I wish you and your family every good thing life has to offer. Please hang out and read some of the other threads, but do know, if/when you respond to someone's post, you're gonna get an answer. We *all* take responsibility for what we say, and we *all* have different experiences and different points of view, and just like you said we didn't/don't know you or your family's experiences - that door swings both ways. Peace.