I know this has a high probablilty of turning into a clusterfuck, but I want to set some things straight after receiving several PMs from different members regarding "doxing" and the like.
First off, doxing is not finding public info on someone... doxing is releasing private info on someone. In other words, posting someone's real name, address, phone numbers, places of employment, etc, etc - if all of that info is private - is doxing. Using Google to search for someone's name and posting their 2004 Myspace page or LinkedIn profile is not.
Now that that's out of the way, we had a member here, who has not been here in almost eight years, who got into nasty fights with other members on this forum - the majority of those members who are also no longer here. These people gave as good as they got, and there were rumors of husbands being called, DFC having been called, etc, etc. Just nasty business all around and the reason for my quote that Nell uses in her signature - all of which happened almost eight years ago.
More recent drama, and digging of personal public info on members, was done primarily by one member and her co-hort, who are both not here any longer.
Anyway, point being, if you do not want the possibility of your personal life being messed with, then don't put it out on a public forum. The main reason why we took down the last boob thread was because of the slew of messages we recieved later from people asking that we take them down, and the pictures being used during online spats.
Look, this isn't 4-chan, 8-chan, kiwi farms, etc... but it isn't a "mommy" site either. We attract weird people because of the subject matter. Does that mean you shouldn't be yourself or reveal personal info to other members? That's your call.
I always look at like this: Think of your worst enemy - real or imagined - and how much information would you hand over to them for ammo against you? Well this is a public forum, people, not a privatre club where all members are vetted before being let through the door.
So if you have any questions or concerns, feel free to voice them here. I will try to elaborate or detail any past situations (like the Mean Girls fiasco) that has happened on the site. Hell, I wouldn't doubt some of the people who are here and have been accused of certain things would love to chime in to clear the air.
First off, doxing is not finding public info on someone... doxing is releasing private info on someone. In other words, posting someone's real name, address, phone numbers, places of employment, etc, etc - if all of that info is private - is doxing. Using Google to search for someone's name and posting their 2004 Myspace page or LinkedIn profile is not.
Now that that's out of the way, we had a member here, who has not been here in almost eight years, who got into nasty fights with other members on this forum - the majority of those members who are also no longer here. These people gave as good as they got, and there were rumors of husbands being called, DFC having been called, etc, etc. Just nasty business all around and the reason for my quote that Nell uses in her signature - all of which happened almost eight years ago.
More recent drama, and digging of personal public info on members, was done primarily by one member and her co-hort, who are both not here any longer.
Anyway, point being, if you do not want the possibility of your personal life being messed with, then don't put it out on a public forum. The main reason why we took down the last boob thread was because of the slew of messages we recieved later from people asking that we take them down, and the pictures being used during online spats.
Look, this isn't 4-chan, 8-chan, kiwi farms, etc... but it isn't a "mommy" site either. We attract weird people because of the subject matter. Does that mean you shouldn't be yourself or reveal personal info to other members? That's your call.
I always look at like this: Think of your worst enemy - real or imagined - and how much information would you hand over to them for ammo against you? Well this is a public forum, people, not a privatre club where all members are vetted before being let through the door.
So if you have any questions or concerns, feel free to voice them here. I will try to elaborate or detail any past situations (like the Mean Girls fiasco) that has happened on the site. Hell, I wouldn't doubt some of the people who are here and have been accused of certain things would love to chime in to clear the air.
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