There is absolutely no way in hell they pull the trigger and actually penalize him, certainly in that manner, for not paying, whether it's an on paper condition of his probation or not.
I refused to take the kids to visit him as he requested. The judge ordered that I accept his phone call 10 minutes every Wednesday and Saturday. Back then, those phone calls were collect and a 10 minute phone call cost about $45.00
Times that 2 times a week times 4 weeks in the month.
There was no way I could pay that kind of phone bill nor was I willing.
I didn't take those collect calls.
Sure enough, he filed papers to go back to court because I didn't follow the court order.
After explaining to the judge how much that would cost me and reminding him that I was receiving zero child support the judge vacated that order. Then he ordered that I allow his parents to take the kids one day a month to visit him. They went one time and said to his parents they didn't want to go there.
Wow that's disgusting.
If he wanted to do the calls, and he is the one calling collect and making said call, the cost should be on him. That should just go to show a judge how little he cares to talk to his kids if he refuses to cough up the cash for such things on his own.
If you had the means you shoulda moved addresses and changed numbers and just never interacted with him ever again. Might be able to track you down later, but no way would he have the means to do so while locked away. And of course you gotta have an address to serve papers if he wanted to challenge shit in court again. Be fucked there too.
Ive had to deal with similar shitshows, not involving prison but involving dead beat scum parents trying to hassle the kids and us. It sickens me how judges show near zero regard or care for what's best for the children, even though that is supposed to be their ONLY concern(outside of CPS/State cases of course where the goal is 100% centered around the scum parent). Who in their right fucking mind can rationalize that it is in a childs best interest to be forced to go visit a fucking prison, for any god damned reason? Shocking to me. And how is it fair or healthy for a child to be forced to uproot their own lives and what they got going on to go to a one day visit once a month with a deadbeat scumbag parent who has given the kids every reason to believe he doesnt give a single shit about em? It's not.
Society, to include the legal system, has an unhealthy obsession with biological parentage. I will never understand it. For some reason, merely providing genetic material to a child and/or "raising" them, however ineptly, for a couple years of their life somehow creates this powerful, unbreakable, all important, preserve at all costs connection in the eyes of society and the law. It takes so fucking much not just to terminate parental rights, but to even get shit like unwanted visitations taken off the table. Sickening and totally fucking batshit.
And dont even get me started on the complete and total lack of perjury concerns when it comes to family court hearings. My fucking god it's like the judges there just accept parents are going to make shit up so they stop caring altogether about the integrity of their courtroom or the hearing itself when it comes to lies. Ive had concrete proof a claim against me was a lie, it was clear the judge believed my side of the story 100%, yet still neglected to go as far as to chastise in any manner the scumbag bio parent for the blatant lying goin on during the proceedings. It's just a total god damned free for all, with the biggest potential victim being the only individuals the court SHOULD actually truly give a shit about, the kids.