@Sugar Cookie , I don't think I would ever characterize you as
unsympathetic in these particular types of cases.
Saddened, yes.
Fatigued that people have not wised up and learned from the horrifying experiences of others? Certainly.
Once you understand that some humans commit cruel actions,
just because they can, and the excuses are not what
they necessarily believe, but what they put out to
control and
deflect blame, you cannot
unsee this knowledge. When
we know, it seems
SO obvious, as easy to sort out whether it's a rainy day or sunny and clear.
Me? I get
impatient that some men and women can not see that it is a rainy day, and it will do
nothing but get worse.
Ever.
I have friends right now, (in particular 3
male friends) that cannot see that they are being financially, psychologically, and physically abused by women that do not give one shit about
them. These women
aren't having a bad day, or have had something
unfair happen to them, so their behavior should be excused! This is their life, the way they operate, and these men are only allowing them a space to conduct their bad behavior, and are a means to an end, and will be replaced with out hesitation.
@Fives My Charm's experience is exactly like mine, and I always applaud her posts because she can
see.
No illusions, never mitigating, recognizing and sussing up the
real.
So
@Sugar Cookie, I know the awful stories keep coming and coming, but let me tell you this:
Before I was a member, and just a reader, and when I was uninjured enough by my 'partner'to walk to the library and look at DD, I began to
see.
I have privately thanked the 2 members who are still here for this. Their posts, consistency, and clarity, and wisdom and light shining saved my life. I say that literally. They didn't know I existed. Had I never joined they would never have known their immense impact on my life.
THAT is what you do
@Sugar Cookie.
And if some quarters feel you are unsympathetic, then to me, that is fine. That is another lesson the abused
need to learn. The reservoir of sympathy and help has limits. Ultimately it is up to the victim to save themselves. Or see the red flags and heed them
the first time.
Please keep doing what you are doing, but not if it is taking a toll on you. You have already helped untold numbers of people. And as we know, the baddies never stop popping up and slithering their way into the lives of others.
